The Messy Version

Okay, let’s get real for a minute.

Three questions. No right answers. Just a little space to think, without pressure to make a big decision today.

Allow about 3 to 5 minutes. Take longer if you want to.

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Question 1 of 3

What are you hoping will change?

Think about something you’ve been waiting on because you believe things will finally get better when it happens.

Here’s what that might sound like

“Things will get better when he gets a job and starts making our family a priority.”

Question 2 of 3

What’s actually happening while you wait?

Put the hope aside for a moment. What keeps happening? What patterns are you noticing?

Here’s what that might sound like

“We keep having the same conversations, but nothing really changes.”

Question 3 of 3

What’s one choice that’s yours to make?

Not his. Not theirs. Yours. What’s one thing you can choose for yourself?

Here’s what that might sound like

“I can pay attention to his actions, not just promises, and decide what I need.”